As the parent of a child, you have the legal duty to provide for your child. That includes things like housing, food, clothing, and schooling for your child’s general welfare and wellbeing. The NC family laws call this the “reasonable needs of the child for health, education, and maintenance.”
Providing for your children is not optional.
Parents share the responsibility to support their children; that’s true whether you have the type of custody or the amount of visitation you’d prefer or not. The best interests for the welfare of children is said to the be “polar star” by which courts are guided in establishing child custody, the frequency of visitation, and the amount of child support.